Do you ever ask yourself; "Why did I react in anger towards my kids?" "Why is my fuse so short ?" "Why can't I let the little stuff go by?"
More often than not, I am asking myself, "What place am I parenting from?" and so often the answer is easy because of how the mood of my house feels - you know what I mean by that ??? Parenting is hard - the waters can be rough to navigate - we need an anchor!
Where does God ask us to live from - to parent from ? He desires peace for us and IN us. He unconditionally dispenses peace to us - He is Peace.
Over the past few months- we have had some stressful moments in our house due to sleep disruptions because our 8 year old has been fighting fear - and simultaneously have dipped our toes in preteen parenting (enough said). So - we found ourselves - Quick to Anger - Quick to escalate. At times, even harsh and abrupt. We were empty & tired - and our parenting was lacking grace. We were trying to stick to hard - rigid- rules rather than listening - and loving. We felt hurried, anxious, forced - there was no stillness to listen the needs spoken in my house and distraction blinded us from the unspoken needs.
Chaos is contagious - self-perpetuating - especially in the home. When I feel unsteady - when my feet are not firmly grounded in Peace - there is a ripple effect to my boys and to Brad. I am responsible for the mood in my house - for "all the feels" -
So - how do we regain peace ? How do we steady ourselves ?
For me - its setting my heart right in the morning before morning routines begin, A daily deposit - or a daily turning all over to my Heavenly father.
Do you ever wake up with a "mental flurry" - all this stuff coming at you when you open your eyes - clear it out early - get your feet set for the day.
Live within His truth daily. Asking my self - What is MY perception vs what is real ? What unnecessary worries am I gripping tightly ? This thought/journaling makes me aware that I am carrying burdens that God does not mean for me to carry - ex. I cannot worry about every aspect of my child's future - He loves Cole & Camp more than I do - He is their Heavenly Father - I have to trust Him - not my own abilities.
Brad & I have to know how we were created to "reset" - to gain stillness. Figure it out and do it -
- Time away together 0r alone
- Coffee/lunch with wise friends
- Escape to Nature
-Hitting the Gym
-Get help from Counseling / mentors (this is a must for us!)
One thing is for sure - the path of parenting is not steady - but we have to be !! I want my kids to inherit the FIRM foundation Christ offers to us. So, therefore, I HAVE to live and function from that foundation. HIS peace is our reward - ours for the taking - to benefit our families and ourselves.
a mid-thirties mom and wife seeking truth, peace and joy in my daily life. mom to two wild, snuggly, and fierce boys - and wife to my best friend and bearded man of my dreams. My joys are giving and receiving gifts (its my love language- not materialistic) - pushing my limits and extinguishing my stress in the workout room- serving others in the medical profession and in my community of friends . i love doing life with others - the phone calls on way to work, the couch discussions, the annual camping trips - My community of friends would tell you I am as authentic and outspoken as you can get - sometimes you can find my husband hiding behind a pillow! My parents thought I would always be a lawyer- I have a strong passion to get the last word - I just cant walk away. Marriage, Motherhood, and my walk with the Lord continue to push me, shape me, and change me. I pray this blog will bless just ONE - and the point to the ONE-